[jeof96]

So this is the time I noticed about my closest friend. We're 3 friends, the 1st is me, the 2nd is the follower of the 3rd friend, the 3rd friend is the one I'm having issues with. It started about a week ago.

So there was a musical play that will be held at some place, Some of our other classmates decided to join on that activity, we've planned the things well, One thing I've noticed when the musical play contest showed up, the 3rd friend, I think got envy on my skills... guitar playing, piano, violin, drums.... One day again, I noticed he's always away from me, sometime later he got in a fight, I helped him yet he backfires me... Things I noticed from him are: Backstabbing, Jealousy, Imitations. Guitar playing(this is what he always copy from me)

As for the event, the 2 of us will play the guitar. I am to provide every musical instruments to be played.

Speaking of Imitations, when he started to envy me, I noticed he tried to copy almost everything from me, like the skills I have. Then I spoke to him and I said, Please try to have your goals set, never copy what you always see, he didn't respond to me.

So the last day before the event would start, we practiced more & more... Then after that, some of us decided to remove some members, as only 15 persons are allowed to participate at that event. While they were at that point, I decided to take a break, then I fell asleep, A member woke me up and told is pretty dark, I should go home. The 3rd friend told me that, I should bring a guitar amplifier, in-case there is only one at the place where we will perform.

The next day, the musical play started, I was a bit late(but only a minute or 2), I didn't even took a snack, they were now on the stage, I picked up the guitar, then the 3rd friend told me that I was removed from the group....
When I heard that I felt like I'm a useless junk.... I never eaten breakfast to dinner on that day.
The next day we all met on a specific place, the 3rd friend didn't even talked to me(Knowing he's the one who told to kick me from the group)....

Up to this day we only talk about something, but it never lasts a minute or a 2....

GUYS I NEED YOUR ADVICE TO FIX UP THIS MESS.....

[.50 Cal King]

I see 2 possible paths you could take,

You could just ditch the friend, It seems you can't carry on a conversation with him without bringing up tension again.

Or you could attempt to teach him the guitar proper, assuming he was only copying you, try to mend the friendship from a common interest.


But what do I know, I've got no friends.

[jeof96]

I think Its time to ditch him, I need to let outside my anger.
Because now, anything I do good to him, he only backfires for no good reason.

This post has been edited by jeof96: 15 October 2011 - 06:41 AM

[Virtuos]

Not. Worth. It.

[Jask]

Have you tried calmly asking him why he's been acting like this? Something obviously came between you two, you should find out what.

[Virtuos]

Jask, on 15 October 2011 - 03:32 PM, said:

Have you tried calmly asking him why he's been acting like this? Something obviously came between you two, you should find out what.

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Then I spoke to him and I said, Please try to have your goals set, never copy what you always see, he didn't respond to me.

umm.. isn't that it?

[jeof96]

@Jask: I tried it but it doesn't work, I've tried to recall as much memories, but I never did a single thing to make that happen.
@Virtuos: I don't get it...


So yeah my main problem is, he like to imitate everything I do. And I find that very irritating. I don't know if he's racing with me.
How can I stop him from doing that?

[Jask]

Virtuos, on 15 October 2011 - 03:01 AM, said:

umm.. isn't that it?

No, that's asking him to stop doing those things, he didn't say anything about asking him why he's doing them. Furthermore, asking him to stop first puts him on the defensive, making it less likely to get a straight answer.

[B@ttousai]

Hire some thug to beat him up and/or kidnap his mom. then beat that thug up/rescue his mom. Instant hero.

On a more serious note, it sounds more like he wanted to be like you, whom he admires, and he took that thingy you said badly, like you think he's only around you to copy you(that's my interpretation of the information presented, at least).

If in fact he IS just there to copy you for some strange reason, he's not really a friend anyhow, and should be summarily dismissed as such. That's rather doubtful, so man up and find out whaddafux his problem is, in a mature and civil manner. Put on yer best understanding face! You're sounding more accusative of him than trying to find out what's wrong, which will never help fix anything. It's not like I'm there, seeing what's going on, but just because somebody started playing guitar later than you doesn't mean they're just copying you playing guitar... ^^; and if you're considerably better than him at playing guitar, why wouldn't he try to learn from you?

I don't know the full, accurate story on the deal with the musical...thing, or how much it meant, but you aren't going to find anything out if you go in offensively. Worst case scenario, the guy you're calling a backstabbing jealous imitator of you isn't your friend after all.

This post has been edited by B@ttousai: 15 October 2011 - 07:06 PM

[SemajChaos]

Jask, on 15 October 2011 - 12:32 AM, said:

Have you tried calmly asking him why he's been acting like this? Something obviously came between you two, you should find out what.

Jask, on 15 October 2011 - 12:32 AM, said:

Have you tried calmly asking him

Jask, on 15 October 2011 - 12:32 AM, said:

tried calmly asking

We're teenagers bro.

[Nosuke]

If I am you I would....

give him everything what he has given to me ten fold.

No point giving a heck about this kind of ppl, you will meet plenty of this shit in your life.

[CrossXchaos]

Act normally as if he's STILL your friend and you're not growing apart.

From what you're saying, you're not doing anything wrong, so him disliking you is his problem, not yours

If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Trying to prove otherwise would probably make it worse.

[jeof96]

So guys, I have a news, I don't know if its good or bad.
We spoke up about random things and we had a good laugh. Stories, Junks & stuffs.
After that, I was a bit worried and a bit happy. Its like our bond has been broken.

B@ttousai, on 16 October 2011 - 03:05 AM, said:

Hire some thug to beat him up and/or kidnap his mom. then beat that thug up/rescue his mom. Instant hero.

On a more serious note, it sounds more like he wanted to be like you, whom he admires, and he took that thingy you said badly, like you think he's only around you to copy you(that's my interpretation of the information presented, at least).

If in fact he IS just there to copy you for some strange reason, he's not really a friend anyhow, and should be summarily dismissed as such. That's rather doubtful, so man up and find out whaddafux his problem is, in a mature and civil manner. Put on yer best understanding face! You're sounding more accusative of him than trying to find out what's wrong, which will never help fix anything. It's not like I'm there, seeing what's going on, but just because somebody started playing guitar later than you doesn't mean they're just copying you playing guitar... ^^; and if you're considerably better than him at playing guitar, why wouldn't he try to learn from you?

I don't know the full, accurate story on the deal with the musical...thing, or how much it meant, but you aren't going to find anything out if you go in offensively. Worst case scenario, the guy you're calling a backstabbing jealous imitator of you isn't your friend after all.

Sometimes I notice him , he's only using me for his own good. Yeah, me being best at something... he sometimes idolizes me, then he races at me, I feel like he just want to surpass me at everything.

Nosuke, on 16 October 2011 - 12:46 PM, said:

If I am you I would....

give him everything what he has given to me ten fold.

No point giving a heck about this kind of ppl, you will meet plenty of this shit in your life.

I always help him if needed. yet I give more than I receive help from him.

CrossXchaos, on 16 October 2011 - 04:53 PM, said:

Act normally as if he's STILL your friend and you're not growing apart.

From what you're saying, you're not doing anything wrong, so him disliking you is his problem, not yours

If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Trying to prove otherwise would probably make it worse.

Thanks for that, I'm always an optimistic person. I just want him to be good.

[Usul]

Virtuos, on 15 October 2011 - 03:24 PM, said:

Not. Worth. It.

This.

On the other hand, you can always take the imitation as a form of flattery, as the saying goes.

[HiddenStar]

I had a best friend who changed to a way that I no longer liked. I just let him go. He is still acting in the same way that I don't like two years later. I have no regrets. But hey, you may have a better friendship with this guy than I did with mine so you may feel differently. Just my two cents

[jeof96]

We're back again, he never said something.
but I think its just jealousy....
Mission Accomplished!

[Kibagami]

Objective cleared!

Supply items were returned.

[S13driftAZ]

I still think you should beat him up

This post has been edited by S13driftAZ: 20 October 2011 - 05:48 AM

[Nosuke]

S13driftAZ, on 20 October 2011 - 01:48 PM, said:

I still think you should beat him up

no I dont support this.

Spoiler

You should act normally with him.
Invite him as like a normal friend to ur house
Then pull the wire, black out the house
Wear the screamo mask, took a chain saw
slice him to piece, place hands,legs,body head in several bags
and buried those piece in a hill far away away so it can never be found

This post has been edited by Nosuke: 20 October 2011 - 11:13 AM

[HiddenStar]

...*blocks Nosuke*...